How to Love Yourself, Flaws and All
Awhile back, Angie Weihs @theagelessrebellion on Instagram posted a pink heart, saying “Love yourself. Without your flaws, you wouldn’t be you.”
My comment on that was, “Flaws are the flip side of our good points. So just flip your thinking…”
This can also help you to become happier. In “How to Be Happy Every Day,” I wrote about flipping the switch:
“Flip the switch” from negative thinking to positivity. Start the day by taking some deep breaths and being positive and grateful for ten minutes. Focus on the good things in life (and about yourself). It will not only benefit you but also those around you.
Age doesn’t matter. It’s never too late to forgive and appreciate your true self. Remember to be nice to yourself every day.
Remember to Love Yourself
Recently, I had just bought groceries at Costco and then realized that I had forgotten my favorite Sanders Dark Chocolate Sea Salt Caramels. 😮 When I went back to get them, I stopped at the flower stand and picked up a bouquet. While standing in line again, the lady in front of me with an overflowing cart said, “Is that all you have? Why don’t you go in front of me!” I thanked her and then noticed that I was standing there holding flowers and chocolate. I laughed and said, “Do you think I’m being nice enough to myself?!” She said, “Well, you could have gotten a bottle of wine while you were at it!” And I told her, “I already got that on my first trip through the line. Look at my cart over there!”
Did you ever hear that the things you love the most about the person you married are the very things that irritate you the most once you are living with them long enough? For instance, you may love that your partner works hard and makes good money and then later you may resent how much time he spends on it.
When I took Systematic Training for Effective Parenting classes as I was bringing up my children, one of the first things we were asked to do was write a list. For a child who may be driving you crazy, STEP facilitators ask parents to write a list of all the good things about their child and focus on that. Guess what? Often, the children’s best qualities were the flip side of the things that were driving their parents crazy. So the parents were able to appreciate them more when they kept the good in mind, instead of getting upset.
This is compassion. And doesn’t our inner child deserve to be treated with compassion as well as everyone else in our world?
If this works for others, it can surely work for ourselves. We can love ourselves despite our flaws, or even because of our flaws. Because if we write a list of what’s best about ourselves, we just might see that the flip side is what our flaws are…and vice versa!
Why don’t you try it and let me know in the comments below? I’d be curious to know what you discover about yourself that you are comfortable sharing!
Let’s Connect
What are your thoughts? Do you have some insights to share with us? Please leave a reply below!
Like this post? You might also want to read:
- “What is the Beauty of Your True Self?“
- “Isn’t Life an Amazing Adventure as Your Destiny Unfolds?“
- “How to Delight in the Age You Are Right Now“
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Angie
This is a powerful post, Angie. There have been so many times in my life when I didn’t treat myself with compassion. I picked out every little flaw and obsessed over it. I still do to some degree…but I think we probably all do that at times. I do treat myself every month to a facial because it’s “me” time. When we moved into a much smaller house, I didn’t realize I had no “escape” room. We are both retired and are, literally, always together. It is difficult to separate the me from the them at times. I really need to figure out an escape place because I think those places are important to us all. Thanks for a thought provoking post.
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I’m glad you mentioned the need for an “escape” room and “me” time. These are important for everyone. Men have their “man caves.” Artistic women need “a room of their own” for creating. I guess I’m lucky to have the entire upstairs, which is the original attic space, for my own. I was just appreciating it last night, realizing for the first time that it had turned into my space to do with as I pleased. I hope you think of a way to carve out a little space for yourself somehow. Thanks for your thoughtful comment. XOXO, Angie
Thank you you for the plug in:) To a happy and successful 2019. I’m about to create a slogan Tee will the words WOKE LATE 🙂